my wife cries everyday because she thinks I will burn in hell. I told her I don’t believe in that silly bible stuff but it don’t stop her from crying.
Originally posted 2009-04-03 23:21:03.
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should i pretend to believe in jesus to save my marriage?
my wife cries everyday because she thinks I will burn in hell. I told her I don’t believe in that silly bible stuff but it don’t stop her from crying.
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She needs mental help.
dump her, just my opinion.
EDIT: not saying it to be a tit, just i lived with a very religious person once, cant see how you can make it work unless she is willing to be flexible.
well seeing as how you’re going too…..
Too bad you are married to a delusional person. If you want to live a lie, tell her you found jesus (he was behind the golf clubs in the garage). If you want to live your life honestly, get out of the relationship. It does not sound like you can reason with her.
Don’t PRETEND, you’d be lying. But why not genuinely trying to understand the real facts about Jesus?
try explaining why you don’t believe in the same things she does.
and if she can’t accept it, then you have a problem.
i dont see why she would cry!!! thats silly didnt she know this before you got married… its up to you what you believe in she shouldnt expect you to change no more than you should expect her to…
If your wife cries everyday because she thinks you’re going to hell, she doesn’t sound very confident in her faith. I also know people that I love who aren’t Christians….I have faith that someday they will come to know the Lord. I pray regularly that they do.
Dishonesty is never a good thing in marriage, even when dealing with Christian beliefs.
Remember that as a believer she:
Loves her god more than she loves you
Will indoctrinate your children
Make you turn away from your logic at marriage
Abide by a set of dimwitted laws
The marriage will always have a high chance of ending in tragedy
NO!! if ur wife should not be able to worry bout that if she loves u!!!!
Get jesus to mow your lawn. That may satisfy her.
god is real -read his word and get to know him before u deny him-peace
No. Say that her God gave you a free will and you reject His offer, let’s have a life here while it lasts
i) get saved!!!!
ii) tell your wife to chill and keep praying minus the tears!!!
iii) glad to know love your wife still
In my opinion you both need to talk to a psychologist about this problem it would be better and safer than trying to get the answer from the internet. First of all when you think that your wives’s religion is silly and you don’t respect her opinion then you should not continue together. because there is not real love in the relationship. That’s my opinion
Tell her to bury you in an asbestos suit if she’s worried. Counter irrational logic with equally irrational logic.
No don’t lie to her. She will continue to pray for your soul. She loves you and doesn’t want you to burn in hell. Give religion a chance before you totally disagree with her. She only wants the best for you. Please don’t wait to long because if you do God will stop sending the Holy Spirit to you. If you feel a tug at your heart you know that its God letting you know he is there for you. God does love you and so does your wife.
God Bless
hahahaha how did you end up with a bible freak in the first place if you dont believe in god? you must be a smooth talker. anyway leave her it will never work DONT lie and say you believe in jesus because then you will not be standing up for what you believe in…think of it this way.
it starts with this lie next thing you know you are completely controled by your delusional wife!!!
RUUUUN!!!!! hahaha.
It depends. Which means more to you, your beliefs or your marriage?
I’m glad you still love your wife but it’s either of the two things:
1. To decide you want to accept Christ as your Saviour and SINCERELY learn about Him.
2. Go be with someone who shares in your belief so she can find someone who shares in your belief.
If you don’t want to believe in God, that is your right. It is one thing to be friends with someone who’s belief is different than yours, because it can work. But in order for marriage to last in the long run, it’s best to be married to someone who shares in your beliefs.
Your telling us you did not tell her your beliefs and she never told you hers while you were dating. If that is the case then you both need counseling. Also hate to tell you this but your wife if what your saying is true has gone off the deep end is in need of help. Most Christians would be quietly praying for your conversion,so why not get her the story of ST.Monica as it might give her some inspiration.
Explain to her that you evolved beyond superstition and buy her some books about the subject, by respected authors like Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris, Richard Dawkins, etc.
My advice is to seek out couples counseling and get some help.
No, you shouldn’t pretend to do anything unless you are an actor in a movie role.
Perhaps you should try and find out where she is coming from, go to church w/ her if she goes to church, talk to her pastor, read the bible for yourself, talk w/ other men that go to her church about it.
Believe me when I tell you that she isn’t crazy like I read on another posts answer, she is concerned w/ where you are going to end up in the afterlife.
She clearly loves you and if you love her, then you won’t pretend but you will research and learn about what she loves.
How long have you been married? Perhaps she should have thought about this before she married you.
If her religious attitudes have changed since you married, I honestly don’t think there’s much you can do. You can’t pretend to believe in Jesus. Tell her that if the power of prayer is real, then God will speak to your heart if she prays enough for you to be saved. Obviously if it’s all true, then everything will turn out fine. Tell her that nagging and crying is pushing you further away from her beliefs and views, not closer. The Bible says she should teach you by example of her good and Godly behavior, not cry all the time. Tell her she is not being a good Christian, and she’s making it look like Christianity is miserable, not great.
If that doesn’t shake her out of her self-pity, then you may not be able to save the relationship. I’m sorry!
It really does sound like she needs some sort of counselling.
That’s because she really believes it!
If you are an atheist, why did you marry a Christian in the first place? Wasn’t religious beliefs something you discussed while you were dating? I think that’s rather important. The Bible says be not unequally yoked. Believers should not marry non-believers. Conflicts like this will arise, even more so when you have children. How have you decided your children will be raised, if you have any? If there are divisions on that issue, it will cause strife within your marriage.
Your not believing in something doesn’t change the reality of it. There is nothing your wife or I or anyone else can do to change your mind. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. All I would ask of you is not to be closed off to the pleadings of the Holy Spirit, and He will guide you into all Truth. Your wife obviously loves you and doesn’t want you to be lost.
Ha ha, well maybe you shud just say whatever keeps her happy. Its sad though for her that she is so scared of hell.