An episode on nightline or 20/20 claims that research shows cheating saves marriages.
Do you t hink this is true?
Originally posted 2009-03-29 01:48:07.
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No I don’t. But I’m sure 20/20 wants you to think it’s true.
no…it destroys the trust, the core foundation of a marriage
lol. that’s the biggest load of c*** i’ve ever heard. how stupid is that.
I don’t think that it does. If you cheat that indicates a problem. Cheating only makes it worse. It is like putting a band aid on a broken leg. Just covers up the real issue.
no. they’re just saying that because they want ratings. everyone who cheats or thinks about it probably watched the show to justify their unfaithfulness.
sorry, it just doesn’t make any sense.
hell no……………. i believe cheating is the end of a marriage
depends on the people involved…
if you get to a point where you are taking each other for granted, you end up looking for something that was lost… then you realise that you had it all along and you start talking again…
Cheating destroys lives, marriages and families. The best advice is to not cheat at all. Plain and simple.
Who wrote that?
No absolutely not. It causes mistrust, hurts the other person, breaks up marriages and causes pain. now how could that save a marriage?
No it’s not true.
Cheating saves a marriage like shoplifting saves commerce.
They may be saying that cheating on your spouse provides a way to have your cake and eat it too, with out actually going through the divorce procedures and doing it the right way.
I mean honestly, if you want to have sex with someone else and you’re married you only have 3 options.
1. Divorce. This can be a long and nasty process that most people don’t want to go through anyway. They may still love their spouse, but are still sexually attracted to someone else so they…
2. Suggest a threesome. Or swinging. In some situations this works out fine. Since it isn’t done behind the person’s back and is usually accompanied by a list of rules that the couple works out, its a more mature way of having extramarital sex. But some people just bypass this option and go straight to…
3. Cheating. If you’re the kind of person that can live with the guilt and can reconcile betraying your partner then this allows you to have extramarital sex without having to bring it up AT ALL in your marriage. This can theoretically save a marriage because you won’t have to even bring up to your partner all those little nasty issues such as I want to have sex with someone else or I’m not as attracted to you as I once was or I’m not ready for commitment at all.
See what I mean?
In THEORY, cheating could save a marriage.
But in REALITY, cheating is the crack in the wall of marriage that eventually destroys it over time.
Are you going to believe 20/20 over God? thou shalt not commit adultry?(Matthew 5:27-28)
Simply, I am sure that Dateline or 20/20 met some couples who stated that cheating save the marriage. Their marriage was already broken and it only help them get back what was lost. So if you make it in a suggestive way, some folks may think that it may save the marriage. Cheating is like have dynamite in a fire display. Not good.
I’ve written on this a lot on this site, but people don’t get it.
A marriage is not a marriage unless it’s battle-tested. How does it handle adversity?
The boundary-pushing a spouse may have as a personality trait may also make that spouse more likely to cheat but also more likely to have true passion, and that’s what needs to be untapped for a marriage to last.
I have specific examples, but no time right now to expound.